Values are a requirement
General Patton once said, “Always do more than is required of you.” I’m sure those that served under one of the most decorated men to ever serve in the United States Army clearly knew more was always required by “The Old Man.”
When you start a new job you are hyper-vigilant to discover what is required of you. If you aren’t, quit being a millenial, and start figuring it out!
When you join a new team, you learn what requirements you’ll have, when is practice, how long is it, when are games, what is the cost.
When you start a new relationship, you begin to learn what is required to be successful dating that person; do they like to talk on the phone, do they prefer texting, do they like to go out, or stay in.
When you find out you are having a baby, the laundry list of requirements storms in; eat this, don’t drink that, take this, do this exercise, buy this product, don’t use this.
When you go get a new driver’s license, when you want to put an offer on a house, when you are picking out a new cellphone, when you decide to upgrade your television.
All of the “things” in life have requirements.
Shout out to Verizon bringing 5G here to Houston! High speed is definitely a requirement for me as your customer.
What do you value?
I was listening to Rachel and Dave Hollis on the Rise Together podcast yesterday talking about their core values. I was intrigued by their list, everything from having fun and laughing to scheduling sex. They are married folks, simmer down now. They made their list of core values, after they both had a set of personal core values. They also consciously chose the values they picked based when they are enjoying their relationship. They clearly didn’t waste time putting things that made them miserable on their core values list. That would obviously be bonkers.
My wheels started turning…
What are my core values?
I hope to follow up in the coming days with a list of core values for our family as well, but just as Rachel and Dave noted, you have to clearly identify your personal core values, before you can create your family’s core values.
So here goes…
1- I want to love.
Queue up the Hallmark advertisement if you must. But really. I want to love. I want to love my husband, I want to love my son, I want to love my Momma, I want to love my friends, I want to love our pets, I want to love my neighbors. Jesus said out of all the commandments He shared, “the greatest of these is love.” So, it was a no brainer for the top of my core values.
2- I want to learn.
I’m a bonafide nerd y’all. I read everything. I listen to everything. I study everything. I have two masters degrees and I’m potentally starting a third. I love learning. I have an amazing app called Texture. If you don’t have it, and you like to read magazines and newspapers but don’t want 3,458 subscriptions, you need this app. For $9.99 month you can have unlimited access to every publication you can think of, right at the tip of your fingers. I love it. And no nasty ink smudges from the newspaper. Can I get an amen? Seriously, check it out. I get no financial benefits from you doing so, just lovin’ on you! I like to be “in the know.” I like to know every side to an issue. I just simply put, love to learn. Confucius once wrote, “He who learns but does not think, is lost! He who thinks but does not learn is in great danger.”
3- I want to have fun.
I could be accused of being a sconch sarcastic. If you know me, you know that is an understatement. I love to laugh. Humor is everything to me. I’m not a fan of listening/watching comedians, I leave that to my husband. I love conversational humor. I love Ellen Degeneres. She must be the most fun human being alive. And I love it. She makes me laugh and smile and feel good. And I cherish all those feelings. Ellen once said, “Laugh. Laugh as much as you can. Laugh until you cry. Cry until you laugh. Keep doing it even if people are passing you on the street saying, ‘I can’t tell if that person is laughing or crying, but either way they seem crazy, let’s walk faster.’ Emote. It’s okay. It shows you are thinking and feeling.”
4- I want to serve.
I already know what of our family core values will be hospitality. That’s just who we are as a family. We love to have friends over. We love to host holidays. We love having regularly scheduled family dates with friends. We are givers. To our own detrement on occasion. But, we are working on it! I love helping people. It’s how I was raised. You don’t grow up the daughter of a military veteran and mental health professional and not love caring about people and helping them. It’s just in the DNA. One of my all-time favorite quotes, and that is saying something, is a quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson, “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”
5- I want to create.
I love writing. It’s a passion of mine. I may, or may not, be working on a book, again, finally, all the words. I am refocusing on this online space. I’m creating a course for businesses. I love creating graphics for social media. I love creating strategy and content of all kinds. It’s just how my brain works. And I love that part of me. And I hope to explore it more. Eckhart Tolle wrote, “The power for creating a better future is contained in the present moment: You create a good future by creating a good present.”
At my core, those are my values. Sure there are hundreds of other things I care about and feel deeply passionate about. But those are my big five.
What are yours?
Have you ever thought about it?
Have you made a list?
…coming soon, the Asberry Family Core Values!